and repair the relationship with yourself first. The rest then flow like hot honey.

Now you can stop driving with your brakes on--stop burning rubber in your brain.

Guess how.

Have you ever promised yourself that you would do something great like

. retire at thirty
. swim around Cape Horn
. win a ping pong tournament in China
. write a blockbuster novel?

or something not quite so dramatic such as lose weight or quit smoking

and then ended up scoffing at your dreams?

I sure have. Which part of our brains puts on the brakes?

Remember when you were a sophomore in high school? You'd survived freshman year humiliations and knew where your locker was and where you could hang out. You had dreams, didn't you?

Where did the brakes come from?

I had dreams of having an exciting career in New York City before finding an exotic stranger to marry and father my children.

But the brakes burned rubber. I thought I knew my own mind, but I knew only 2% of it. The braking part craved my mother’s approval. I married as soon as I graduated from college. Brakes of fear. Divorced eleven years later. One after another, I married men who behaved like my mother in their daily disapproval of something I said or did.

Each time I escaped I met a new man and climbed right back into my prison, another painful relationship.

Until I met the other 98% of my mind and removed the brakes and the craving.

Happy Ending! Once I no longer needed approval, I met, loved and married a man who loves me unconditionally and approves of almost everything I do.

If I had not released the brakes on the rest of my mind I would have ignored him and chosen another tormenter. That was me. You wouldn’t be so extreme.

Do you have any recurring problems? If you do, you can bet that your subconscious mind has a different agenda than your conscious mind in that corner of your life.

For example, my first husband argued with me once a month about money I spent on groceries. That was our recurrent problem, our mutual conflicting agendas. My second husband became irrationally jealous every two months. My third insulted me and my guests every fall. That was his peculiar seasonal rubber burning. I did not know at the time what I did to trigger recurring problems, but I definitely did something.

It took a lot of writing to find out that I chose the wrong men for me, and why. Writing works! Writing freely, not well. Writing by hand on paper fast without conscious thought unlocks the brakes. You find out what's in your subconscious mind.

What a relief to live free! I no longer walk on eggs around anyone.

Your problems may seem unrelated, but you know, most problems come from perspectives. I knew a guy who sold magic eyeglasses on the corner of Hollywood and Vine. You never knew what you were getting if you dared buy a pair, yet everyone bought even though he charged fifty bucks each. Some people walked away laughing, others stopped dead in their tracks, others weeped openly, others shouted curses at the wind. They were all looking at the same street scene.

Would you like to change any of your perspectives?

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Here's to removing your brakes, meeting your mind, and loving.

Evelyn Cole, Ma,MFA
The Whole-mind Writer
1748 Deer Canyon Road
Arroyo Grande, CA 93420
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