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Self for Sale?Why sell yourself? "I am not for sale," I hear you say. But, consider this: a sale is an offer of something that may or may not be of value to the other person. You, your whole self, makes an offer when you encounter someone who has what you want. The exchange need not involve money--or it can. You want to persuade the other to accept your offer in exchange for what he will give you, so your self is for sale. The greatest persuasion secret in the world, according to Mark Joyner, is the frame for your message, the message that precedes your offer. In his excellent text on marketing, "The Irrisistible Offer" Mark gets to the heart of all human interactions. You may think, as I used to, "Hey, I'm not in sales." Ah, but you are. That's the secret I learned reading Mark's book. I'm a poet. Most of my friends, the people I see regularly and who share my core values, are poets. They don't think of themselves as salespersons. There's little money to be made from poetry. We make our living others ways--off spouses or by teaching. The best teacher is a salesperson who provides the right frame first: love of subject and student. The frame for your persuasive message, according to Mark Joyner, is you. Whatever you have to offer another is framed by your subconscious and conscious being--your whole mind. The other perceives that instantly and pre-judges your offer and its value for him. If he accepts your offer, he gives back to you. When I go to my regular poetry workshop I know what each person there has to offer me. My family and other friends with different interests would not "buy" what they have to offer. I do, and we poets have a marvelous time. That's just one payoff. The frame in this case is our integrity, the truth of the poems we submit to each other. The frame in other situations is the way we dress, speak, stand, smile--or frown. Or, in writing, our choice of words at the opening. For the other to accept our offer, be it friendship, long or short term sex, momentary conviviality, a used car, or marriage, our unconscious self provides the frame for our message. This why I urge you to get to know your subconscious self better. Once, when I was a young teacher, I applied for a position I wanted very much. In the interview I grew mute, tongue-tied. My subconscious said, "Don't ask. You don't have the right to ask. And NEVER BRAG!" I didn't get the job although I was highly qualified and wanted it. I started writing after that to unearth and trash the messages that blocked my offers to the world. It worked. What you think of yourself shows on your face, your body, and in your voice. No matter how hard you try to hide it, your frame shows. To simply say, "I like myself, flaws and all," isn't enough. You cannot lie to your subconscious mind. Years ago I went to the King Tut exhibit in Los Angeles. The treasures were beautifully displayed in an air-conditioned museum under enhancing lighting. Shortly afterwards I saw the same exhibit in Cairo in a museum with no lights, no artful display and no air-conditioning. Without the frame, the exhibit had little luster. It didn't "persuade" me as it had in Los Angeles. Or, as Michael Levine, a Hollywood PR giant, says, "Put your offer in a Tiffany Box." He is simply referring to the frame. So, adjust your frame for a good life. I began here with "Why Sell Yourself?" I'll end with "How to Sell Yourself." Learn all you can about your subconscious mind. Learn in the best way for you. See choices You can try Brainsweep before you buy. Just
click here for lesson one. Because I work personally with each student I limit the number to fifty a month. If it's your "cup of tea" you will know from Lesson One that my offer is valuable for you. Take Simpleology 101 at the same time. Just click on self-for-sale. Evy P.S. The Whole-mind thing is my frame.
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